Learning Out Loud: Why Imperfection Is the Best Starting Point

As I reflect on my personal growth journey, an all-too-familiar inner voice pops up with its favorite question: “Who are you to share insights on personal development?” It’s a fair point. I’m just a mom of four kids (related post, Why There’s No ‘Just’ in Parenting), muddling through life one chaotic moment at a time. And sure, after nine years on this path, I still haven’t cracked the code of life. I stumble regularly, celebrate small wins, and frequently fall flat on my face.

Mastering the art of dishwashing... or just an advanced water play session? It’s all about perspective! 😆💦

But here’s the thing: I’ve always been drawn to the scenic route. You know, the one with twists, turns, detours, potholes, and those breathtaking views that make it all worthwhile. My endless curiosity drives me to explore every possible path—even if it means taking the occasional (okay, frequent) U-turn. And honestly? The scenic route might take longer, but the stories and lessons it offers are priceless.

So why share my imperfect journey? Because there’s something refreshing about learning from someone who’s right in the thick of it. We’re all at different points on this wild ride, trading roles as student and teacher, and it’s a beautiful reminder that none of us are truly alone.

At first, I thought about waiting until I was “wise enough” to share—maybe in my eighties, sipping tea on a porch, handing out unsolicited wisdom to grandkids who didn’t ask for it. But then I realized: the struggles, joys, and rawness of this season of life are vivid now. Waiting would dull those colors, and that would be a shame. Practicing self-compassion, as I’ve written about before, helped me challenge my inner critic. I realized that embracing imperfection and having the courage to start this blog are valuable acts in themselves.

That inner critic of mine? Oh, it’s persistent. But I’ve started seeing it differently. Instead of viewing it as a harsh voice of doom, I’ve come to understand it as an awkward but well-meaning protector, trying to keep me safe. So, I’ve decided to channel its energy into this post, with the understanding that I don’t have all the answers (spoiler alert: no one does). My ideas are constantly evolving. What feels true today might shift tomorrow—and that’s okay.

Ralph Waldo Emerson said it best: “A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds.” This resonates deeply with my experience learning the Iyengar method of yoga. As a former black-and-white thinker, I struggled when teachers offered conflicting instructions. Over time, I’ve learned to embrace the grey areas, appreciating the nuance and flexibility they bring. Growth, it turns out, lives in those in-between spaces.

Looking back, I can see how hitting rock bottom after moving to Texas was exactly what I needed—though I would’ve politely declined the opportunity at the time. That moment forced me to seek something deeper, and it led me to yoga and personal development. Both showed up at just the right time, even though it felt like the absolute worst time.

Now, I’m leaning into this journey, fueled by curiosity, community, and a willingness to grow in real-time. I’m here to share what I’m learning—whether it’s personal insights or ideas sparked by others—because that’s what community is all about. We lift each other up, learn from one another, and remind ourselves that growth doesn’t have to be a solo sport.

We weren’t meant to navigate this journey alone, so why should we try? Let’s keep walking this scenic route together. It’s messy and beautiful, full of detours and surprises. And the best part? We’ve got each other to lean on, cheering one another on through every stumble and triumph.

What about you? What’s one area of life where you’ve been waiting for “perfection” before starting? Let’s cheer each other on in the comments—because growth is better together! 🌟

With gratitude for this shared journey,Kelly

Let’s keep growing together, one step at a time.